Controlling Anger Through Disassociation.
For all those who find it difficult to control their emotions, and who tend to say things in a fit of rage and regret it later and get easily upset over any given situation, one way of handling such situations is by dissociation. Dissociation is not recommended all of the times but is very effective some of the times.
Dissociating yourself from a stressful situation by imagining that you have the ability to free yourself from these bonding emotions and feelings, you will suddenly realize that your breathing returns back to normalcy, you start to relax and above all you start thinking clearly.
By this method, you start thinking maturely and effectively help in making things better. You will realize that you are able to remain calm and decisive instead of getting upset and angry.
Dissociation is a tool that allows you to relax and get relief from stress in a simple, quick and effective way. Practicing the below mentioned steps will help you learn this great technique and help you achieve stress relief quickly.
However, remember that whenever you face yourself with a stressful situation you actually forget to practice these steps. This is but natural as whenever you become angry or upset your brain starts to believe that there is danger. However this is not the fact. Though you feel upset nothing will harm you. When the primitive part of the brain feels danger when you are upset and angry, it prioritizes attack over stress relief. So, the trick here is whenever you become upset or angry, tell yourself that nothing is going to harm you and then practice the below steps.
1.Whenever you are angry or upset, breathe!
2.Follow your breath. Most of the times our breathing becomes shallow and fast when we are upset. Slow your breathing down and breathe deeply and calmly. This will signal your brain's primitive part to relax and give you the opportunity to think again.
3.Once you have stabilized your breathing imagine that you are floating out of your body up in the air. Most of us find it difficult to imagine floating out and hence it is also equally effective to imagine that you are stepping aside out of your body. Imagine you are able to see your own body, the situation it is in down below or next to you.
4.Observe the proceedings below like watching an old movie. While you talk imagine your body talking and watch your move. Whenever you are thinking thoughts imagine as if these thoughts belonged to a third person.
5.Finally before committing an action, ask What will help the situation now? to yourself. Think about the actions that will make the situation better for everyone involved including yourself.
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